In his ever buoyant fashion, Joe Schlesinger describes the perils and pearls of aging in which he is now engaged. “I have a new job. I've been a journalist for 65 years. Nowadays, though, my main job is being a patient, seeing doctors and other medical practitioners.” First, there is my GP, of course. Behind him, an army of specialists: a rheumatologist, a cardiologist, several orthopedists and neurologists, a dermatologist, periodontist, as well as a dentist, an optometrist, audiologist, pharmacist, naturopath and physiotherapist, to say nothing of the trainer who tries to keep mobile what Shakespeare called the "shrunk shank" of old age.”
For many of us, engaged in the aging process personally or who journey with an aged loved one, we recognize the many facets of aging described by Joe. When physical limitations creep up and eventually take over one’s normal life-style, the challenge of facing life becomes even greater. Life is not just in the limbs, because as Joe points out, with our modern technology, there are many ways in which our living is enhanced. (for example, hip, knee, ankle, shoulder replacements, etc.) Joe himself says he is on his third hip replacement and it is doing well.
There is a psychological change that accompanies the need to have to resort to using a wheel chair, walker or cane. We no longer experience ourselves, as we were, nor do others see us as we have been known. This changes our view of life in general: we can either give up and be totally dependent on others OR we can choose to be as independent as possible and create a beautiful bond of interdependence with our care-givers.
When this happens, and it inevitably will, what keeps a person going? One of the treasures of aging well, is the ability to look upon life as GIFT and whatever can be done through our modern science and technology as another gift for us to embrace. This attitude of being gifted helps one to not just cope with debilitation, but to actually find meaning in new ways: for example, to accept the need of help from others who lovingly give it as needed; to learn how one can continue to be a presence with and for others; to learn new ways of making this world a better place. Above all, this involves a very intentional decision to foster the good in life, to keep positive amidst the challenges. The waning of mental abilities also brings its own challenges with memory loss being a big part of this.
For Joe, it is “…a loving family, cherished friends and the treasures of nice dinners, music and reading. Those are the elixirs that make life worth living .... But there is one more thing that occupies my mind, and that is keeping up as best I can with the turbulence of the world I've inhabited these 85 years.
One of the best ways to give the brain a thorough workout is to try to unravel the complexities of the politics of countries such as Israel, Iran and Italy. So I keep on exploring what's happening in distant parts of the world, often saddened by the turn of events and outraged by outbursts of brutality, but now and then also delighted by the triumphs of the human spirit.
I have, in a way, the whole world in my hands, the world of all that is near and dear to me as well as much of what lies far beyond the horizon. All this thanks to a lot of doctors and all those pills I swallow.”
Thanks, Joe for your inspiration and courage as we, who are aging, journey with you in spirit and in some cases in reality.
See also Joe’s interview with Adrienne Arseneault
Kathleen Lichti csj